I had this nice little story typed up as usual but then I erased it because the way I feel now causes me to just wanna give it you straight..if I'm going to give it at all. First off I would like to say that I am embarrassed and ashamed because for what ever the reason may have been, I allowed someone and a situation to make me act out in a way that I never wanted to have to resort to....again!!.....and for that I am SUPER SORRY. I have something I need you all to help me with. Say you in a relationship with someone, lets say years. You live in two different places and all you want from that person is there time.... when its available. How should I feel knowing that I'm with a person that only comes to see me at night, WILL NOT!!! stay nights and if by chance they do then they jump up and out in a hurry a soon as they wake up... not to mention you are not allowed to come to where they live for no reason at all.... to some of you it might sound like some funny business but that's not what i'm trying to put out there....what you think is your own business. Any way, if I must say..... i don't think you would be happy with that and in most cases you would address that issue. After you have addressed that issue some many times because nothing changed... they hit you with " i can't date you like you want to be dated you" "maybe we aren't meant to be together" "I'm sorry I can't make you happy" What!!!!!! All that because you basically ask them to stop making you feel like a, how should I say.....Booty call maybe?? Now as much as I would like to really get in to it but I'm going to leave it at that (because there's more to it) and let you tell me what ya'll think. Is that trying to force someone to be with you how you want them to be or is that suppose to be something that folks in relationships do, So maybe yeeeeeears from now in my next relationship i wouldn't expect those things if that person can't give it to me. HELP ME PLEASE!!! CUZ IM CONFUSED AS HELL!!!
I don't know if things have worked out for you and this person since you wrote this post...I'm sorry I just got a chance to read it.
ReplyDeleteFirst you are not wrong for how you feel based on the circumstances...and you had the right to address it.
That said, the person is also right in pointing out that you are asking to be dated in a specific way. I mean unless s/he said, "don't get serious, this is just a booty call thang," then you feeling that way is all on you. This person should have explained what was going on with them and yall could have maybe come to some sort of balance....instead the person decided to run. But maybe you are better off for it!